Chapter 1: Reflecting on Self

In the words of the wise Sant Kabir Das, “I searched for evil everywhere, but I found none more wicked than myself.” This profound insight struck me deeply after the passing of a remarkable individual.

Why is it that we often fail to appreciate the admirable qualities in those around us while magnifying their flaws? It’s an ironic truth that when we point fingers, three fingers are inevitably pointing back at us.

Human tendencies often lead us to glorify the virtues of those who have departed, especially when we lose someone dear to us. I vividly recall the times I spent with them, where their warm smile and genuine kindness were ever-present. They were my unwavering support, always there in times of need.

As stated in the Qur’an, “If God were to punish humanity for their misdeeds, not a single living being would remain on this earth.” This wisdom reminds us that perfection is unattainable; every individual has their shortcomings.

Yet, we frequently fixate on the negatives, allowing them to overshadow the positive aspects that often far exceed the faults. This obsession blinds us to the good, and sometimes it becomes too late to realize it.

Lesson Learned: When encountering a negative trait, it’s crucial to address it directly with the individual involved, rather than discussing it with others. Conversations about their shortcomings can often lead to exaggeration, obscuring the recognition of their positive traits.

Just as positivity breeds positivity, negativity can equally spread. When we share someone’s flaws, it often invites others to join in, perpetuating a cycle of criticism. This is merely human nature—people desire to participate, and their agreement can amplify the issue.

Instead, if we approach these discussions with an attitude of humility, acknowledging our own imperfections, we can shift the focus towards the positive attributes that individuals possess.

This shift in perspective could transform the entire conversation into a constructive dialogue. By doing so, we not only uplift others but also cultivate positivity within ourselves.

Think Positive, and Positivity Will Follow.

The first video, "You Can't Change the World, But You Can Change Your Life," emphasizes the significance of personal transformation over external change. It encourages viewers to take charge of their lives and focus on self-improvement.

The second video, "If We Can't Change the World, Change Ourselves! | 肖 亦桐," reinforces the idea that true change begins within. It highlights the importance of self-awareness and personal growth as the foundation for broader societal transformation.