Chapter 1: Understanding Manifestation

In the expansive world of manifestation, one topic often approached with caution is the idea of manifesting specific individuals. Personally, I’ve hesitated to engage with this subject due to a somewhat skeptical viewpoint. Admittedly, my success in this area has been notable. I’ve consistently achieved what I set out to manifest, even if those goals seemed out of reach for others. As an introvert, I never prioritized having certain people in my life.

When it comes to attracting love, friendships, or specific individuals, it has always been relatively easy for me. You may wonder why that is. The answer lies in my lack of attachment to the concept. I attempted to manifest a particular person on ten different occasions, and surprisingly, I succeeded each time. While it might be uncomfortable to admit, especially during my more reckless “villain era,” these relationships were often fleeting. My focus was less on wanting these individuals and more on wanting them to desire me — and I frequently got my way.

However, it’s vital to clarify that I am not the person I once was. I’ve grown, learned from past errors, and made amends along the way. This is why I hesitate to delve into the nuances of manifesting specific people; I have become adept at it. My hope is that you will glean valuable insights from my experience and apply them wisely, avoiding the same pitfalls I encountered during my “villain era.” I trust that you approach this knowledge with sincerity and a genuine desire for connection rather than self-serving intentions.

Recently, I had a meaningful conversation with someone named Angel. Yes, you heard that right — Angel is thriving! They have been fully committed to their personal growth, emphasizing self-care and prioritizing their well-being. Angel is also in the midst of manifesting a specific individual, although this person seems unaware of Angel’s efforts.

During our discussion, Angel revealed something significant: they had unintentionally placed this specific person on a pedestal. This raises an important question: How can you manifest something if you’ve elevated it to a place beyond your reach? If you find that your attempts to attract your specific person are taking longer than expected, you may have unwittingly idealized them. Let’s explore some common ways this can occur:

1. Idealization: Viewing them as someone out of your league, thus placing them on a pedestal.
2. Behavior Alteration: Changing how you act around them, reinforcing the pedestalization.
3. Belief in Flawlessness: Convincing yourself they possess no flaws or insecurities, another form of pedestal placement.

Now, let’s delve deeper into the first point. Imagine you have a list of goals you wish to manifest: financial freedom, your dream job, an ideal body, clear skin, and, of course, your specific person. Notice the pattern? You’re aiming for perfection in every area. You don’t just want enough money to get by; you crave abundance. You’re not looking for an almost-perfect body; you want one that exudes confidence. Clear skin, not just somewhat clear. And your specific person? You’ve put them atop a pedestal, envisioning them as the ideal partner—flawless and superior.

By unconsciously categorizing your specific person alongside these seemingly perfect aspirations, you’ve inadvertently elevated them. Here’s the kicker: they can sense it. They can feel your idealization and the energy of your pursuit. When something is constantly chasing you, human instinct often leads to retreat.

It's essential to recognize that everyone has insecurities. Even if you perceive someone as perfect, they are likely facing their own doubts. Take me, for instance. You may see me as an ideal figure, but I am acutely aware of my imperfections, such as my not-so-great morning breath, post-weight loss skin issues, my lack of French fluency, and my less-than-flat stomach. These are my vulnerabilities.

When you pursue someone and place them on a pedestal, you inadvertently make them question your intentions. They may wonder why someone they view as exceptional is interested in them. Are they not on your level? Could they actually be out of your league? These thoughts are valid and may cross their minds.

Another possibility is that they’ve become a confident individual, just as I hope you have. They might wonder why someone like you, who seems extraordinary, feels the need to chase them. This can lead to doubts about compatibility or whether you are settling for less than you deserve.

Recognizing a person’s insecurities and acknowledging their flaws can help humanize them in your eyes, helping to dismantle the pedestal you’ve placed them on. When you can see the complete picture of who they are, including both their strengths and weaknesses, it becomes an act of unconditional love — loving someone without conditions. This shift in perception will be felt by them. They might think, “This feels different. Why isn’t this person showering me with admiration like everyone else?” Your authenticity and ability to see them for who they truly are can be incredibly attractive.

Keep in mind that once you manifest your specific person, they won’t be perfect. They will have their moments of irritation, make mistakes, and exhibit flaws. They might prioritize friends over you at times, have awkward moments, forget to brush their teeth, and still expect affection. Why? Because they are human, just like you.

The key to confidence in approaching them lies in recognizing their humanity and understanding that, even with their flaws, you still desire them. That’s the essence of unconditional love in action. Trust me, they will notice the difference in your approach.

As a final piece of wisdom shared with me by my beloved sister before she passed, “Stop chasing and become the chaste.” In other words, cease the pursuit of others, including your specific person, and focus on becoming the person you wish to manifest. Recognize your own worth, and you will close the gap between you and them. They will sense your self-assurance and naturally be drawn to you.

In summary, stop seeking perfection and embody the person you wish to attract. Appreciate your specific person for who they are, flaws included. Prioritize your own self-worth, practice self-love, and refrain from placing them on an unreachable pedestal. When you embrace this mindset, they will feel your confidence, and the dynamics of your relationship will shift.

Remember, your self-worth is determined by you — not by whether your specific person ultimately chooses you. So, stop chasing and start becoming the best version of yourself. You’ve got this!

Thank you for joining me in this exploration of how to manifest your specific person. If you found this article helpful, please give it a thumbs up, subscribe for more content, and share your thoughts on future topics in the comments. Until next time, take care, and remember — stop chasing, start becoming.

Toodles! ?

Chapter 2: Practical Steps to Manifestation

Gain essential knowledge about manifesting specific individuals in your life.